“Welcome it, open to it, embrace it, love it, honour it, accept it as it is”. These are the words of guidance we’re often used to hearing when we find ourself immersed in difficult, upsetting or emotionally painful moments in life. But when we try to follow that guidance, and the pain doesn’t go away, we can become increasingly frustrated.
It’s that frustration which reveals our hidden agenda: we are actually only ‘honouring’ and ‘welcoming’ the pain in order to get rid of it. Beneath our spiritual disguise it’s the same old separate ‘me’ hard at work, still resisting, still trying to manipulate life, still wanting things to be different.
What if the pain were welcome to stay forever?
Then our clever thought strategy is totally obliterated, and maybe we can hear those words of acceptance afresh, as an invitation to see life from a radically new perspective. What we truly are is the source and substance of all that is, and so the fact that something exists at all means that it is already welcomed, already embraced, already loved, honoured and accepted – including the moments when we’re caught up in the game of ‘me-ing’, when the pain is so great that we simply can’t accept it, when we fundamentally resist, when we judge ourself for having resisted.
True acceptance is not a strategy, it has no time limit or conditions attached; it is the very essence of our being.
This is never about chastising ourself for getting it ‘wrong’, that’s only more of the same old game, but rather seeing deeply into the mechanism of how we operate, of how we’re easily caught up in that old familiar model of belief, of how the marvel of this illumination starts to pervade each and every activity of our daily experience.