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Feeling Incredibly Vulnerable

By October 31, 2017Transcripts, Read

Transcript from a meeting with James Eaton on 24 June, 2017

Q: I’m feeling incredibly vulnerable. I really didn’t think I was going to come up, but I just thought maybe I should. I’ve really struggled today, being here. Such difficult feelings; and I don’t even know exactly what they are. I’ve just felt so overwhelmed.

James: Where do you feel it in the body? In the belly, somewhere in the central column?

Q: A lot wider than normal. Just the whole of me feels incredibly uncomfortable – figity and sicky and almost like I’ve got a fever. If I was at home now I’d want to just lie down on the floor and have a two year old tantrum, just to let it out. You know? It’s all just too much.

James: Too much. Yes. Overwhelming.

(silent connecting)

Q: The pain is just… (Q begins to cry)

James: Yes. Feel the feet on the floor. That’s it. Feel the feet on the floor. Sitting bones on the chair. Noticing the breath. In through the nose, out through the mouth. Here you are. You, this aware presence, this aware openness.

Q: It’s so hard to be this vulnerable actually… fighting

James: Let it fight. Here you are. Here you are. What you are is right here – seeing that fight happening, the attempt to keep it safe and closed down, and then the opening – allowing it all to play itself out. Here you are.

(Q cries more strongly)

Yes. That’s it. Feet on the floor. Noticing the breath. Allowing. Here you are.

(silent connecting)

Here you are. Yes.

Q: I just so don’t want to be here.

James: Yes. Allow that voice to speak, “Don’t want to be here. What am I doing here?!” Yes.

Q: I just want it all to stop.

James: “I want it all to stop”. Yes. That’s it.

Q: It just feels unbearable.

James: Unbearable. It’s unbearable.

Q: The thought says, “Oh I’m so scared of it all just coming out.”

James: Yes. Great. Here you are. Here you are. Here – You – Are. Right here. Allowing this to come.

Q: I feel about this big (the size of a small child).

James: Yes, really. Absolutely. That’s what this is. Connecting to that energy that was frozen out in childhood, that was too much to face at the time, that was too overwhelming, that got buried deep in the body. That split off part wants to be heard, wants to be allowed, integrated. Yes. So we’re allowing it to speak, allowing it to be seen.

Q: I really want to be able to love it but I struggle so much.

James: You don’t need to try. That’s another voice, “I want to love it”, that’s the adult voice that’s trying trying trying to do the right thing. Here you are. You are that love. You don’t need to try. Allow it all to come, all to speak.

Q: It’s just so scary… It’s just never ending… It just feels like once it’s open I’m going to fall apart…

James: Yes. This is what we believe. These are the ideas, and we allow them to be acknowledged and honored. Here you are. Through all of it. Here you are.

Q: Why is it so hard? It’s just so hard being alive sometimes. Just to hold it in, letting it out… Oh f**k! (tears break into big laughter)

(big laughter in the room)

James: This is very beautiful. Because what you’re doing is you’re slowly, in your own time, building confidence in being what you truly are. Something felt safe enough then to be seen. Something felt safe enough to open. And in that opening you start to see that the idea that you’re going to be annihilated, or you’re going to go mad, or you’re going to do something crazy, or whatever, is simply that – an idea.

And so, through our actual experience, we learn to trust in what we truly are. And no intellectual debate could ever give you that trust. It’s in exactly what you’re doing, in that vulnerability, in living on that edge if you like, that you start to see that it’s ok. It’s ok. It can be uncomfortable. And if we let go of the label ‘uncomfortable’, then we start to see there’s an aliveness there. And as we start to see that we can operate without having to uphold anything, there’s a freedom there, there’s a strength there, there’s a power there… there’s a tenderness there… there’s a softness there. Because nothing needs to be protected and upheld. Do you see how the dynamic of life can open?

But it will only come through that vulnerability, that openness. And for the separate me that’s terrifying. And so that’s why it’s important to bring in the understanding of what you truly are first. So that as these repressed feelings start to open, and there’s that terror, that terror is experienced within this spacious presence that you truly are.

Q: I’ve been feeling very very separate, certainly sitting there today. There’s a tremendous amount of fear.

James: Yes. Absolutely. And so we honor that. We honor that fear. Yes. You can include that too.

Q: It feels like I’ve got ‘alien’ in here just waiting to burst out!

James: Yes. I like the way you said that, “It feels like I’ve got alien in here”. So what are you? You can’t be ‘alien’. You’re the aware openness that ‘alien’ can open into, because there’s space for it now. That’s what you’re doing – you’re gifting that friendly, loving space for everything to open into, finally. Finally it can be received lovingly.

(silent connecting)

Yes. Here you are. So, whatever’s going on, you can feel the feet on the floor, sitting bones on the chair – there’s your mountain – and the breath rising and falling; and then the body and head can open, can do whatever they need to do. Here you are.

Q: I find it very hard for both to be there, because if the strong bit’s there it almost feels like it’s repressing the ‘bleurgh’. But when it’s ‘bleurgh’ it’s quite difficult to be the holding bit really.

James: Just play with it, experiment, just see.

Q: I have managed it at home once or twice after last week, but I’ve completely lost it again in the last few days.

James: Well look at that. So that’s already a big difference isn’t it?

Q: Yes.

James: Yes. So you’re starting to sense that autonomy. When you start to get a taste for that, it’s very powerful. You start to see that whatever is going on, there’s this aware openness here that’s holding it. You the personal self aren’t holding it. I’m not holding it. IT is holding it – your deepest nature, your original nature, whatever we want to call it – awareness… presence… the ground of being.

Q: Yes, most of the time I find it very hard to be in contact with that, I have to admit. I think it’s knowing what’s authentic and what isn’t. I get in such a muddle, and end up confusing myself.

James: And then here you are.

(silence)

So we just keep it really simple.

I – AM. Whatever I am, IS.

(silence)

Q: Thank you.